LIFE: THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND MENOPAUSE NAVIGATING THE ‘INVISIBLE’ TRANSITION WITH FAITH AND GRACE

By: Adedeji Adenike

For many Muslim women, menopause is an unspoken chapter  a quiet transition that comes with waves of change both within the body and the soul. It’s a phase where the body slows, emotions fluctuate, and faith is tested in new, subtle ways. Yet in the silence of this journey lies a sacred opportunity to rediscover oneself not through loss, but through renewal.

The Hidden Struggle Many Don’t Talk About

Menopause can feel like an invisible trial. Society rarely talks about it; families don’t often understand it. Some women feel like their value fades as their youth and fertility wane. But Islam never defines a woman by her physical stage. Allah sees her sabr (patience), her sincerity, her continued devotion  not her hormonal changes.

Every moment of discomfort, every sleepless night, every tear shed in solitude is seen by the One who said:

“Indeed, Allah is with those who are patient.”
(Qur’an 2:153)

This stage, though difficult, is also dignified. It marks wisdom earned, prayers whispered through decades, and the strength of a woman who has lived, nurtured, and served  and now must nurture herself.

A Time to Reconnect Spiritually

As her body transitions, a woman’s connection with Allah can deepen in ways it couldn’t before. With fewer worldly distractions, she can focus more on her spiritual self her Qur’an, her dhikr, her inner peace.

Many scholars describe menopause as a stage of khulwah  spiritual retreat within life itself. It’s not the end of womanhood; it’s the beginning of serenity. Prayer becomes slower, more heartfelt. Du’a becomes softer but stronger. She no longer rushes through worship  she rests in it.

Redefining Beauty and Purpose

Modern culture glorifies youth, but Islam honors endurance. In Allah’s sight, beauty is not in smooth skin or glossy hair  it’s in the lines written by years of gratitude and sacrifice.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but at your hearts and deeds.”
(Muslim)

So as menopause redefines the body, faith must redefine the heart. This stage is not about what ends  it’s about what begins. Wisdom grows. Compassion deepens. A woman learns to love herself without the need for worldly validation.

Supporting Each Other in Silence

Every Muslim community should learn to speak more gently about this phase. Husbands, children, and friends must see menopause not as a “change in mood” but as a jihad of patience. It deserves empathy, not judgment; understanding, not distance.

When women are supported through this stage  spiritually and emotionally  they come out stronger, more peaceful, and closer to Allah.

The Gift Hidden in the Transition

Menopause is not a punishment. It’s a divine pause  a chance to rest from physical burdens and prepare for deeper spiritual ones. It reminds every woman that her worth was never tied to her body, but to her soul.

So to every Muslim woman walking through this quiet transition:
Be gentle with yourself. You are not fading  you are transforming. Allah still sees you, values you, and loves you.

Your worship still matters.
Your du’as still reach the heavens.
And your story, even in this invisible phase, is still sacred.

“And your Lord is never unaware of what you do.”
(Qur’an 11:123)