CHARACTERISTICS OF A GOOD MUSLIM WOMAN
Every woman must possess certain qualities to be referred to as a good Muslim woman.
These following are some of those qualities.
A Muslim woman should be aware that she bears a significant amount of responsibility for her children’s upbringing, as youngsters tend to be closer to and spend more time with their mothers. She needs to know everything about their behavior, emotions, and intellectual growth during their childhood and adolescent years. This type of lady is keenly aware of her responsibilities as a mother. She is fully aware of Allah’s protection (order) in the holy Qur’an which says in Qur’an (66v6)
“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) Angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded”
The Prophet Muhammed (SAW) also refers to this responsibility in his teaching thus that “each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock”.
Parents, especially mothers, are held accountable for providing a solid upbringing and sound Islamic education for their children based on the noble attributes that prophet Muhammed (SAW) was sent to disseminate amongst mankind.
Muslim mothers must seek the most effective way to raise their children. Children’s psychology is understood by educated women, and they are aware of the differences in attitude and tendency among them. Using the best and most successful parenting approaches, she attempts to infiltrate their innocent world and plant the seeds of lofty value and worth characteristics. The mother is naturally attached to her children and endears herself to them in order for them to open up to her and share their thoughts and feelings with her. She rushes to correct and refine their ideas and feelings, taking into account the age and mental capacity of each child.
The family home is a miniature, or the tiniest component of society, in which children’s mentality, intelligence, attitude, and tendency are shaped while they are still young and vulnerable to excellent advice. As a result, parents play a vital role in enlightening their children’s thoughts and guiding them toward the truth and good deeds.
Muslim women have traditionally recognized their role as primary caregivers for their children, and they have a track record of generating powerful leaders and putting beautiful values in their hearts. It is so great that it is difficult to discover anything noble in their hearts. It is so great that you will be hard pressed to locate a nobleman in Muslim territory who has not owed his mother for the cause of a historical event.
A Muslim woman cannot be unaware that her children require her warm, deep love and real care in order to develop normally, free of psychological problems, crises, and complications. They will be filled with optimism, trust, hope, and ambition as a result of their sound upbringing. This ethos could be modeled after the teachings of Prophet Muhammed (SAW) Anas reported “I never saw anyone who was more compassionate towards children than the messenger of Allah (SAW). His son, Ibrahim was in the care of a wet nurse in the hills around medina, he will go there and will go with him, and he will enter the house pick up his son and kiss him, and then came back. Also, whenever the Prophet passes by a group of boys he will smile fondly and greet them, all these shows how merciful and compassionate the Prophet Muhammed (SAW) and this was emulated by his Ummah.
A Muslim woman must always remain by her husband and offers her advice to him. She must also console and relieve her husband when he is tired or distressed. She must be able to stand by his side, which she demonstrates during their time together. Prophet Muhammed’s first wife, Khadijat, is an excellent example of this. It was said that she provided her husband with unwavering support during his missionary efforts. She backed him up and gave him strength when angel Jubril appeared to him for the first time in Hira’s cave. When he ran into the room, she consoled him and covered him up before he could explain what had occurred to him after he had been released. She took the prophet (SAW) to waraqah Ibn Nawafal who let them realise that he has been chosen to be a Prophet of God.
A woman who is faithful, believes in Almighty Allah, and knows a lot about the Qur’an, and can provide her husband sound advice on important matters.